If you’ve followed Kwan Yin Healing for any length of time, you’ve likely heard that the reason most people don’t get what they want is that they don’t know what it is. This, by necessity, keeps them stuck.
But what DO they want? Really want?
All kinds of psychological theories delve into that question, with all kinds of problems outlined and solutions proposed. But these well-intended (and often well-researched) approaches can miss the real point.
Above all, before anything else, before anything else is on the table:
People want to feel safe, and they want to feel heard, seen, that others “get it.”
Loved and understood, yes, high on the list. But until people feel they are in a safe place to open up, until they feel they will be heard once they do, only then can the process begin.
People want to know, like, and trust before opening up. They need time for a relationship to be built. They aren’t opening up on a whim or on the chance someone is listening.
And that—keeps many people stuck. Without safety, the first steps to freedom are only rarely taken.
The Cycle of Perpetuation
Mark Silver, describing the heart’s transformational journey, puts it this way:
Unfortunately, if you need something, it means you are lacking it. You don’t have it. When you don’t have something, and you take action, then your actions become expressions of this lack. Empty Actions = Empty Results
It’s a simple equation. If your actions are expressions of this lack, then the results your actions produce will also be expressions of this lack. Actions from emptiness create unfulfilling results.
Instead of trying to fix the problem, your doorway to abundance is to be in touch with your essential neediness and lack. If you want to be abundant and successful, you have to come from a place of generosity–not giving away, but a generosity of spirit.
And that’s healing. That’s the antidote for that emptiness inside, that sense of unfulfilled need, that tender, vulnerable spot protected from the outside world—and sometimes even from self. That connection to spirit, oversoul, Source, the Divine, however conscious mind interprets this individually – this is really what we’re craving. That’s also why (1) Change to (2) Clarity around focused (3) Coherence to this (4) Connection are the Four Pillars of Kwan Yin Healing. It’s these four together that realize tangible results.
Co-creation is a metaphor – we aren’t separate.
In fact, that sense of separateness cuts the conscious connection to Source. And Connection, Healing, Well-Being, Thriving, all come from Source.
Why are there so many stories about people hitting rock-bottom before being lifted up? Why is help so long coming? Why can’t miracles come in a more timely fashion?
That protective cocoon keeping us safe from the outside also keeps us trapped inside. People tend to cling to their own ways, even when those ways clearly aren’t working, either not well or not at all. It’s a safety from humility. Only when things turn hopeless do people open up out of desperation and become willing to embrace the miracle. We ourselves keep the solution at bay. We aren’t done trying to make our own way work, and will persist until disaster forces us to change.
Sam Carpenter describes what he calls “gun to the head enlightenment”:
Few people think their problems are a result of personal process failure. Most see their troubles as isolated events, blaming fate, horoscopes, bad luck, karma, God, the devil, neighbors, competitors, family members, the weather, the President, Congress, liberals, conservatives, global warming, too much TV, lack of money, too much money, the educational establishment, or just a world gone bad. And most see problems as overwhelming in number: an onslaught from out there, only to be fended off by superhuman efforts. For many, the excuse/blame list is endless. I had been a card-carrying resident of that camp, but when the new vision engulfed me there was zero chance I would ever live in that place again. I call it semi-enlightenment.
To make this shift is to have Freedom from Fear, to be Truly Loved and Heard and Understood and Acknowledged. Instead of being dragged, let go of the rope. Reach outside of self for better results. Individually, we just have too small a picture. And separateness is a lie – it’s simply not who we are.
All is Source. You are Source. Everyone and everything is Source. Love it all—or recognize and remove the blockages you’re creating.
Today is the Feast of the Epiphany, when, in the Christian tradition, the Magi arrive in a simple stable and recognize the child’s connection to Source, the Christ-nature (in the same sense as Buddha-nature).
An Epiphany is a Revelation, a Realization of the Divine. And it’s our natural state. All else is the deception of ego/separateness.
Find contentment where you already are, so you can feel enlivened to continue the journey ahead. And then take the steps needed for your journey, whatever that may be for you.
Kwan Yin Healing
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