Nine Steps toward Getting Unstuck

Why are we stuck?  What keeps us stuck?  How can we get unstuck?  Follow these nine steps.

Step 1) Understand what’s not working.

Three ineffective roles populate the world:  Prosecutor, Victim, and Rescuer.  The Prosecutors are the tough manager, the strict teacher, the overbearing parent, and actually just convincing people to avoid them.  Victims look at Prosecutors as the problem, but that means the Victims’ behavior is always off the hook, not responsible for anything, and thus unable to change it.   Rescuers at first seem great, but afterwards, when life isn’t perfect, the Victims turn on the Rescuers for “not rescuing good enough.”  Victims become Prosecutors.

So recognize two points:  (a) we can’t control Others, and (b) acknowledge that our current approach isn’t working.  People will endlessly defend what isn’t working, but something has to change—and that’s us.

Step 2) We need help.

OUR way got us where we are now, and will keep us here.  We need others:  more resources, more ideas, people who aren’t stuck where we are, because they don’t have the mindset keeping us stuck.   As we become stronger, as we reach more advanced levels, this is all the more important, because we’re on new ground, and need the help of people who have been where we’re going.

Step 3) Find a spiritual center.

This can be, but doesn’t not have to be religious or traditional.  Forget about disbeliefs—these are irrelevant.  What are the actual beliefs, however minimal—Tao, nature, energy, what?  These can be very small, but whatever those beliefs, we need that focus.  Construct a daily spiritual practice around this.  Perhaps morning reading, evening meditation, or a quiet cup of tea with a favorite tree, but the power is in daily practice.  It will build in ways unimaginable until experienced.  We need this daily touchstone to move forward—whatever happens, we start fresh again from this deep truth we defined.

4) Take a Personal Examination.

Where are we, and what do we want?  Most people don’t get what they want because they don’t know what it is.  Create a dissonance between the reality of where we are and where we want to be.  Don’t blame others for the status quo.  To reclaim power, reclaim self—all of it.  This is NOT a pain free process, but an essential one.

Where are we pointing fingers?   At whom?  What’s the problem?  What does this threaten for us – lots of things are problems that don’t bother us, so why is this one standing out?  What’s our part in it, even if just 5%—this the beginning of power.   We can’t use what power we don’t have, so 5% is stronger than the 95% we lack.  What’s good about this situation, even if only a little—gratitude is also power.  How is this other person suffering (hurt people hurt people)?  Be patient with people struggling through their own “stuff.”  Wish them well – that’s for US, not them, as it separates us from the stuck situation.

Step 5) Where are there weak spots?

Weak spots are not bad—they just need healing and strengthening.  Just identify them.   Then become willing to work on them.  Ask for help, from others and from that spiritual center, that touchstone of truth.

Step 6) Fix our side of problems.

Where have we, even in misunderstanding, harmed others?  Make it right—for OURSELVES, not them…or this will keep us stuck.  Do this with someone else to remain accountable and personally honest.  This is not “I’m sorry,” but making these situations right (where possible or realistic).   Get ourselves clean and free.
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Step 7) Continue self-examination, and simplify.

Simplifying allows the flow of “luck.”   We become responsive, aware.  Judgments are attachments—cut them off.  As Don Miguel Ruiz advises—“don’t make assumptions, don’t take anything personal, be impeccable with your word, and always do your best.”   Keep things simple.  Without the clutter, the “luck” falls into place.

Step 8) Continue to develop the connection to the spiritual center.

Greg Reid, author of “Three Feet from Gold,” interviewed hundreds of successful people, all of whom asked “How may I serve you?”   Develop a habit of humility and service, asking for help regularly.   Keep seeking the inner self vs. mental-ego-dominance.

Step 9) Freely share.

Getting unstuck is not about ego, but love and compassion. Sharing and serving keeps things green and relevant for ourselves.  Like streams, water needs to continually flow both in and out, or we become flooded or stagnant—and back to stuck.

We’re going to talk about this a lot more starting Oct. 20, including practical, actionable steps toward demonstrable results.   I hope you’ll join us — and tell your friends and associates.  They can register here free for this teleseminar and the rest at http://kwanyinhealing.com/six-days.php.  You can easily share this on Facebook and more by clicking the share buttons.  Here’s the lineup:

Oct. 20 — Living Abundance (and why this isn’t simply money)
Oct. 22 — Emotional Challenges and Fear
Oct. 24 — Stress, Overwhelm and Uncertainty
Oct. 27 — Finding Peace, Spiritual Growth, and Living this daily in the “Real World”
Oct. 29 — Getting Unstuck and Manifesting your Dreams and Desires
Oct. 31 — If Healing isn’t Magic, Where do I get the Miracle?  The Kwan Yin Path

Enjoy!

Tim
Kwan Yin Healing
http://kwanyinhealing.com

12 Common Misconceptions about the Law of Attraction (and what to do about them)

From business men Andrew Carnegie and Napoleon Hill to Esther Hicks and the sensationalized film “The Secret,” the Law of Attraction is touted as the path to success.  So why isn’t it working better?  Here are 12 common misconceptions.

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Napoleon Hill, author of the classic “Think and Grow Rich,” stressed the importance of “vibration,” learned from his mentor, Andrew Carnegie.

1) “The Law of Attraction doesn’t work for me.”

It does work—and is working.  We have much of what we want already—where we live, what we do with our time, who we see—our choices already dictate our lives.  Enjoy!

2) Why will power and setting intention isn’t attracting results.

We are physical, emotional, mental and spiritual.  Will power and setting intention uses only one aspect.   They are important, but this must travel down to the emotional and physical levels, as well as harmonize with the spiritual levels.

3) Raising Vibration  — think coherence and completeness, not escaping the mundane.

Manifesting in physical reality while ignoring physical reality just sets self against self.    Instead of thinking of escaping a denser vibration, think in terms of coherence of energy, of sympathetic vibration throughout, from physical through spiritual, working together.

4) Feeling – Do you want to be Happy?  Are you sure?

The emotional level stands between the physical and the mental planes;  ignoring it blocks the energy transfer.  Feelings reflect thought—are you feeling good?  If not, you’re blocking your manifestation.   Most people prefer not to be happy, because change is too great a price to pay.  So they manifest the status quo.

5) Achieving a change in consciousness means that things change.

Think and feel in terms of a changed state—step into different ways of being.   People think they want money;  they really want Abundance.  Who goes to the forest and wishes for a specific number of leaves?  No—we want endless leaves.  That’s Abundance.  They want the struggle and the pressure gone.  That means a change in consciousness—first.

6) Uncertainty and Shiva – stop clinging.

Living in Attraction means becoming comfortable with uncertainty—in fact, loving it.  We love to Create (Brahma) and we love to Preserve (Vishnu), but we hate to cut away (Shiva).  All three are needed;  creation happens through the destruction of what it uses to make something.  Allowing manifestation means also dissolution, especially the limited mental framework of what “should” be.

7) Love / Gratitude  are the foundations.

Doing what we love is crucial—as in, “Even if I don’t get the money, I still want to do this;  it will help so many people!”  That’s the kind of focus and passion intention needs.   Be so grateful for what’s present that what the future brings doesn’t matter.  That’s the key to the necessary element of detachment as well.

8) If you want something you’ve never had, do things you’ve never done.

Without new approaches, we get more of the same.  To change, we must reach outside of ourselves.   Get help from others.  In addition to the extra resources, this gets us out of the limitations of our own minds.  Expand.

9) What do you want?  And why?  Get Clear.

Most people never get what they want because they don’t know what it is—mainly, they focus on what they don’t  want, so that’s what they perpetuate.  Few explore why  they want this.  What will it do for them?  How will it feel?  Can they feel it just thinking about it?  These are crucial keys.

10) Whatever we spend time doing, we get better at.

If we spend time recreating the status quo, we’ll get better and better at it.  If we spend time transcending limitations, we’ll get better at that.  Attraction takes growth.  It’s not like ordering from the menu.

11) Marginal, Target, Outrageous – the nature of goals

Goals are beyond us, by definition—we’ve never done them.  Most goals, then, reach zero completion (we never start), or 90%–we do as much as we can.   So instead of goals, set the “marginal, target, outrageous” milestones.  Marginal is what past performance indicates will happen.  Target is the hoped for outcome.   Outrageous is beyond what seems possible.  This reframing starts making Targets the new Marginal, allowing new Targets into Outrageous Manifestation.

12) The Nature of Desire

Desire is not the problem, as some misunderstand Buddhism.  Attachment is the problem.  Karma is the promise that all desires will manifest—in time, with all that comes with them.  Thus, we continually reincarnate until we get to finally achieve all our desires.  And that’s not going to happen until we change from the state where we aren’t manifesting them.  Love desire, choose wisely, and manifest in joy.

We’re going to talk about this a lot more starting Oct. 20, including practical, actionable steps toward demonstrable results.   I hope you’ll join us — and tell your friends and associates.  They can register here free for this teleseminar and the rest at http://kwanyinhealing.com/six-days.php.  You can easily share this on Facebook and more by clicking the share buttons.  Here’s the lineup:

Oct. 20 — Living Abundance (and why this isn’t simply money)
Oct. 22 — Emotional Challenges and Fear
Oct. 24 — Stress, Overwhelm and Uncertainty
Oct. 27 — Finding Peace, Spiritual Growth, and Living this daily in the “Real World”
Oct. 29 — Getting Unstuck and Manifesting your Dreams and Desires
Oct. 31 — If Healing isn’t Magic, Where do I get the Miracle?  The Kwan Yin Path

Enjoy!

Tim
Kwan Yin Healing
http://kwanyinhealing.com